Potty Training Update

Potty training, boy has that been fun. :( Seems like as soon as I pushed publish on the potty training post the accidents began. Addison seemed to have an accident at Stacy's about every other day. It is hard to understand because she knows exactly what to do but sometimes just don't do it. Little girl this is frustrating, let's just be done with the accidents and be fully trained okay. It does make me glad we started the process so far in advance of Lilah's arrival. We recently started giving her consequences for having an accident. It started out with a spanking, but little one you have pulled at your mommy's and Stacy's heart strings too much and now we are to time out. Here was the scenario. We had been doing the spanking method for a couple of days. One day Addy had an accident at Stacy's, which she said she did not spank her for, and Stacy did not go into detail as to why not. Stacy and I agreed that we should at least do timeout, so that she would see that she could not just pee in her pants while playing and go back to playing. She needed a timeout to "think about" what you had done (oh geez do I sound like my parents). So that evening when we got home Addy and I were playing just fine. I started dinner, and she went off to her room to get her babies. Well she never came back and things seemed a little quiet. I went in there and found her squatted in the corner (never a good sign). I asked her if she had pee peed in her pants to which she responded "No". I asked again and she said "Mommy I don't need a spanking, don't be mad at me". Well that killed me. She said it in such a soft, sweet, innocent voice. It caught me off guard and I didn't know what to do. She continued saying it. I kept saying be strong, be strong. But I could almost feel tears coming and thinking great my child thinks I beat her. So I took her to the bathroom, then I told her she would have to sit in timeout. Mommy was not happy, because she had made her panties yucky. Well, timeout was pretty awful in her book, so I felt like at least she was getting some sort of punishment. After she quit wailing in timeout and was quiet for a few seconds (the whole timeout was 5-10 mins of which she whined the entire time). We tried to have a talk about what she did. We talked about keeping her panties dry and telling me when she needs to go. However, the whole time she kept stroking my face saying "it's okay mommy". I continually had to say look at mommy's eyes because she was trying to give me her cute little gaze up to the ceiling to get out of the situation. I mean this girl already learned how to work me. After the whole situation it dawned on me she must have done this to Stacy. Sure enough I called Stacy and she had a similar story. So we decided our plan of attack would be the timeout, but I tell you this little one is a mess. It is a good thing she truly has a good, sweet heart, and doesn't have lots of discipline problems. This parenting stuff is hard, especially when by the end of the day you are worn out and you haven't seen your child all day. Tim is much better at this stuff than me. I know we have to continue to be firm to lay a foundation so she can learn right from wrong, but it is really a hard job. Okay, I am getting off topic a bit that could be a whole new post. The point of the post was potty training is still going on. Stacy, Tim and I have a plan, and hope over the summer with only Addy and Charlotte at Stacy's things will get a little better. Stacy keeps saying just keep trudging on, so that is what we are doing. Praying for the day that it all sticks and no more accidents EVER!